The importance of readings at your wedding part 2

by Monday 18th October 2021blog

In the previous blog, I talked about the importance of readings and things to consider when choosing both the reading and who reads it. In this accompanying blog I want to share some ideas of the kinds of readings you could choose.

It’s really up to you to select something that suits you and the person who will read. Typically, couples pick traditional readings, so they may well be from classic literature or the bible for example. But, increasingly, couples choose songs lyrics or extracts from poems or films. My own parents chose an Apache wedding blessing to be read by my uncle – who is a drama professional and voice-over artist and he read it with aplomb – there wasn’t a dry eye in the house!  But he is a professional when it comes to reading publicly and projecting his voice, so he carried this off with great effect. 

You may be minimalistic in your approach and so might want to choose something simple yet poignant – for example, Always by Lang Leav:

You were you
and I was I;
We were two
before our time

I was yours,
before I knew
and you have always
been mine too. 

How lovely and simple is that!

A classic that has been chosen over the years is by Elizabeth Barrett Browning – ‘How do I love thee?’ This is enough to bring tears to you eyes when you’re preparing your wedding:

How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height 
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace. 
I love thee to the level of every day’s
Most quiet need, by son and candlelight.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right; 
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love with a passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints, I love thee with the breath, 
Smiles, tears, of all my life! – And if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.

Wow! Spine tingling!

You may well favour something more religious, and there are many classics you can choose there. 

But, let me finish with a seemingly unlikely one from a childhood favourite story of mine from AA Milne and Winnie the Poo:

If ever there is tomorrow when we’re not together…
there is something you must always remember. 
You are braver than you believe,
stronger than you seem,
and smarter than you think.
But the most important thing is,
even if we’re apart… I’ll always be with you.

How lovely is that!